Why You Shouldn’t Be Made To Feel Like You’re In The Wrong

Ok. So life has been taking its course, and I’m telling you, if you’ve experienced the quarter-century-life-crisis then let me know, it’s a real thing!

You know that quote “when you hit rock bottom the only way is up” well I’m being honest with you guys, rock bottom was at the tip of my toes.

While it felt like everything was spiralling out of my control, one thing that has been an eye opener is relationships and friendships. Now while I was trudging through my own muddy swamp, the people at the sides holding my hand are now the people that I am grateful towards.

I want to ask you a question, do you have some people, ‘friends’ in your life who are desperate to know what’s going on? Those people who almost make you feel guilty for not telling them and then once you’ve finished they’re like… “ok, I’ve got my daily dose of gossip, I’ve got to go now bye.” Conversation over. No feedback, support. No olive branch. In actual fact it makes them feel better about their own lives to know that yours isn’t going to plan.

If you’re going through something, anything no matter how big or small, you shouldn’t be made to feel guilty for feeling how you do. The people that truly care will be knocking on your door and ringing your phone regardless of the fact that you’re not in the mood to socialise or party. The people that truly care about you will see that you need a helping hand and will stretch out for you and wait for you until you’re ready.

And you know what, it doesn’t matter how much time passes before you see them or speak to them, the ones that really matter will be true to you throughout time. So never feel like you owe people an explanation. Love and friendship is about understanding, empathising and being supportive through the rough times. True friendship isn’t about just being there for the good but about building the good times together.

I joined a Network Marketing company nearly a year ago, and I have learnt so much wisdom about life. About the way people tick and think and when you start to go the opposite way to your social circle it can get intense. When people don’t understand something they tend to shut it off, and are so quick to judge. But it is those that go against the grain, that stand out from the crowd and show character and bravery to do something different to follow their heart that I admire.

I was reading Steve Harvey’s book “Act Like A Success…”, (I highly recommend it). What he says is that there are people who will be on you’re truck, or vehicle with you as you pull yourself to the top of the mountain. (It doesn’t matter how big or small the mountain is but we all have a peak destination). Now  people can either help you and support you; pushing you up. You will have some people who will put their feet up and expect to share your success without helping you build and there will be those who were great for you when you started your journey but the climb just isn’t for them. Now that doesn’t mean that you need to break relations but don’t ever feel guilty for not satisfying someone else’s expectation.

Surround yourself with people who encourage you to be the best version of you, friends and partners shouldn’t make you feel insecure or inadequate because you don’t agree with their thinking, or because you don’t have the same bank account as them or because you read different books to them, they should make you feel empowered and support you in whatever it is you want to achieve.

As you know I’m all about following your Passion, so if someone says to you “it’s not going to work, be realistic” nod, smile and bust your gut in following your dream. It really doesn’t matter if you fail, in fact be proud of yourself that you tried something different and failed instead of listening to someone who doesn’t have the courage to follow their own dream.

At the end of the day, if you care what other people think of you then that is fear and weakness, because it shows that you don’t believe in yourself enough. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you have to explain yourself as to why you’re doing what your doing. As long as it makes sense to you, (and is safe) then hats of to you.

You have my support and if you’re reading this with a dream or a passion but need some motivation, encouragement or can relate to the post then please comment below or email me at sanah.shaikh@hotmail.co.uk I would love to hear from you!

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